Forgiveness
>> Tuesday, February 16, 2010
Forgiveness.
Forgiveness is an important act.
Forgiveness is part of our everyday lives.
Forgiving the one who used the last of the toilet paper and failed to change the roll. Forgiving the person who cut you off while on your way to work. Forgiving your child after they left a toy in the middle of the floor and you stepped on it with your bare foot. Forgiveness is all around us.
One of the best pieces of advise we got before we got married was never go to be angry at one another. I totally agree for a couple of reasons.
1. In the morning, more than likely, you won't remember why you were angry in the first place.
2. No need to loose precious beauty sleep over something that will not stop the world from turning. Face it. None of us are getting any younger.
3. Night time is the perfect time to make up if you know what I mean! :)
One of the best pieces of advise we got before we got married was never go to be angry at one another. I totally agree for a couple of reasons.
1. In the morning, more than likely, you won't remember why you were angry in the first place.
2. No need to loose precious beauty sleep over something that will not stop the world from turning. Face it. None of us are getting any younger.
3. Night time is the perfect time to make up if you know what I mean! :)
Forgiveness is a not one of my strengths.
Actually I really suck at it! Just ask my husband!
I am totally honest about my short coming.
My husband is the king of forgiveness. He never holds a grudge. No matter what has happened he always takes the high road. Me not so much. I have no problem with the small stuff. It is the big ones that I can't seem to let go. I need to learn to let go, to move on. I need to accept the past and realize I can't change it. I can't change other people's actions. I need to realize you can't change what others say or do. I need to accept that some people will never change. Some things will never change, but I can. I can take the high road. I can move on. I can be the bigger person. I can forgive. I may not totally forget, but I need to stop letting things that are not in my control go.
Saying I am sorry seems so easy, but why is so hard to say sometimes. We are big on apologies around here especially with the kids. One does something to the other, you tell them you are sorry and you better mean it!
Last year we were on vacation. Brent did something to Alexis. So I reminded him he needed to hug her and tell her he was sorry, what happened next I was totally unprepared for. He looked me and said "Sorry doesn't help.". I was ticked. I was more than ticked! I was enraged! The way he said it I knew he heard it from somewhere. He told me a teacher at school told him that when he went to apologize for something he did. Well, in the middle of the Magic Kingdom I lost it! It wasn't the happiest place on Earth anymore. I looked at my husband and choice words flew from my mouth. How dare someone tell my child that. I am their mother and he is their father. How dare someone under mind our parenting. Well, I ranted and raved. In the not best parenting move, I told Brent I did not care what the teacher said, you apologize and mean it no matter what someone tells you! Remember I was speaking from anger and I should have worded it differently. I am sure bright and early Monday morning Brent repeated word for word my tirade to the teacher. He never forgets anything! Anyways, in my mind if you do something wrong you apologize and mean it. However, sometimes I forget my own rule.
The point of this is ultimately we must be able to ask for forgiveness and sometimes forgive others. It is much easier to talk or type about than to actually do especially when you have been hurt by something so deeply. So starting tomorrow I am going to make a valiant effort to be more forgiving and to be able to ask for forgiveness when I done something that deems it.
Can you say you are a forgiving person?
Can you honestly say you know how to ask for forgiveness?
Saying I am sorry seems so easy, but why is so hard to say sometimes. We are big on apologies around here especially with the kids. One does something to the other, you tell them you are sorry and you better mean it!
Last year we were on vacation. Brent did something to Alexis. So I reminded him he needed to hug her and tell her he was sorry, what happened next I was totally unprepared for. He looked me and said "Sorry doesn't help.". I was ticked. I was more than ticked! I was enraged! The way he said it I knew he heard it from somewhere. He told me a teacher at school told him that when he went to apologize for something he did. Well, in the middle of the Magic Kingdom I lost it! It wasn't the happiest place on Earth anymore. I looked at my husband and choice words flew from my mouth. How dare someone tell my child that. I am their mother and he is their father. How dare someone under mind our parenting. Well, I ranted and raved. In the not best parenting move, I told Brent I did not care what the teacher said, you apologize and mean it no matter what someone tells you! Remember I was speaking from anger and I should have worded it differently. I am sure bright and early Monday morning Brent repeated word for word my tirade to the teacher. He never forgets anything! Anyways, in my mind if you do something wrong you apologize and mean it. However, sometimes I forget my own rule.
The point of this is ultimately we must be able to ask for forgiveness and sometimes forgive others. It is much easier to talk or type about than to actually do especially when you have been hurt by something so deeply. So starting tomorrow I am going to make a valiant effort to be more forgiving and to be able to ask for forgiveness when I done something that deems it.
Can you say you are a forgiving person?
Can you honestly say you know how to ask for forgiveness?
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